Why does this “Ice Breaker”Guide exist?
When I put together the BETA version of the “Text Your Wife Into Bed” training program and sent it out into the world to work itʼs magic a really funny thing happened . . .
See, I originally included a bunch of women on the BETA list (as well as a whole bunch of married and even single guys) . . .
This was partly because women seemed REALLY excited when I told them about the program (especially in person. It was like being sized up by a hungry, lustful cheetah every time I talked about it) and partly because I wanted to get the female perspective on what Iʼd put together. Would they like it? Would they hate it? Would armies of angry feminists descend on my condo and threaten to cut off my penis with a Ginsu knife?
The good news is that the angry feminists never really showed up (and my penis is just fine, thanks for asking.)
In fact, about 90% of the women who went through the program absolutely adored it, sent me breathless testimonials, told me they got turned on just reading through the example texts and begged me to get this thing on the market as soon as possible so their husbands and boyfriends could start doing it to them.
The bad news was that while women and most of the men I sent the program to for testing absolutely LOVED it, I got a LOT of emails from nervous guys saying . . .
“Michael, this looks really good, but I donʼt know if I can just go from NOTHING to doing this to my wife.”” (Which really means “But Iʼm too scared to actually try it and would rather have a sexually unsatisfying marriage where my wife sees me as having less sexual power than the shower faucet.”)
At the time I thought this was a little bit funny and LOT depressing.
On the one hand I had a wide variety of women, young and old, from high powered professionals to saucy cocktail waitresses saying they were DESPERATE for their men to really start lusting after them again . . . and telling me they would SWOON if they ever got texts like this . . .
But on the other hand I had a bunch of guys who couldnʼt quite make the “leap” to sending the sexy, dirty, powerfully charged stuff that works.
After a while I figured out it was all my fault . . .
What Iʼd totally failed to include in the program was some kind of “Ice Breaker” for guys . . .
A way for guys to “test the waters” and “raise the heat” on their wives over a few short days so they wouldnʼt be SHOCKED and APPALLED when the truly dirty, sexy, fun stuff started to come their way.
(Itʼs kind of like cooking a frog. Youʼve got to raise the heat gradually so the little guy doesnʼt hop out of the pot.)
And thatʼs why I put together this “Ice Breaker” guide. . .
The 4-Day Ice Breaker guide is a “no-risk” way for you to “dip a toe” into the texting waters, gradually raise the temperature and finally “graduate” to using the techniques, phrases and “done for you” texts you find in the main product.
Now, if you already have a pretty sexually up front relationship, you might be able to dive right into the “heavy” stuff, but I recommend the “ice breaker” for almost everybody.
Itʼs basically a “bridge” of texts that start off innocuous and clean and even kind of romantic and gradually move up to the level of dirtiness and electricity (and headboard shattering fun) that weʼre striving for.
And it should take any nervousness you have about getting started with this program away while showing you no uncertain terms just how eager your wife is to have this level of dirtiness and spice in your marriage.
One last note:
LISTEN: I canʼt force you to use this material. And I guess if you just buy the program,
put it on your shelf and never use it that shouldnʼt bother me. But it DOES bother me. See, I created this program as a way to help men (and women) out . . . to add more
spark into your relationship . . . to have more and better sex and better relationships.
So hereʼs my advice to you (and Iʼm sorry if itʼs a little mean): Man up, take out your cell phone, go through the program and TEXT YOUR WIFE INTO BED.
Sheʼll thank you for it (and sheʼll probably thank me too. A shocking number of women do.)
Yours,
Michael Fiore Seattle, WA,
What To Do First . . .
OK, here are your instructions before we go any further:
1. Watch the “Text Your Wife Into Bed” Training videos all the way through on your computer. (Or download the audios and listen to them in your car or on your MP3 player.) Itʼs important that you have a basis for all this before we go any further.
The videos are about an hour and twenty minutes total and youʼll be able to get through them fast.
2. If youʼre not already, get comfortable with the texting features of your cell phone. Also, make sure your wife is able to receive texts on her phone and that youʼre not paying some outlandish fee every time she receives a message.
3. If youʼre currently texting your wife about “Mundane” stuff, stop. We need to keep this channel “Dirty” in order to get what we want. That means that if your wife sends you texts about “picking up groceries” or stuff like that, you should call or email her back instead of texting her. Might seem a little strange at first, but itʼs worth it.
4. Take a deep breathe. Remember, youʼre a lot more nervous about this than she is.
(NOTE: Save the TYWIB Manual for later. Thereʼs a lot of good nitty gritty (and dirty) stuff in there, but weʼre going to start out on a very straightforward path to get things warmed up. You can basically consider this “Ice Breaker” as a “prequel” to the videos and the manual. Except, unlike the Star Wars prequels, itʼs actually good and serves a purpose.)
Once the “Detail stuff” is handled itʼs time to get to work.
All you have to do is send her EXACTLY what I tell you to over the next few pages and youʼll get the heat moving REALLY FAST. Whatever you do, donʼt go “freelance” yet. Youʼll have plenty of chances to have fun and get creative later, but for now I want you to stick to the program. Itʼs tested and proven and I want you to get results fast.
DAY 1 – Feeling her out. “Iʼm thinking of you.”
The first thing we need to do is get this whole “texting” thing to feel normal in the first place.
To do that weʼre going to send her a really simple “curiosity pivot,” followed by a sweet, innocent and heart-beat amplifying follow up.
Note that thereʼs nothing really “dirty” in todayʼs message, but thatʼs kind of the point. Weʼre starting off “clean” so we can get dirty later.
Hereʼs EXACTLY what you should send to your wife . . .
Text 1: (SENT between 10AM and 2PM)
“I was just thinking . . .”
This is a really innocuous “Stealth” text that doesnʼt give her any idea about where weʼre ultimately going to go with this.
All you need to do is send it and . . .
WAIT FOR A RESPONSE.
Donʼt send anything else until she responds no matter how much you want to. Seriously. I mean it.
One of three things is going to happen here:
1. Sheʼs going to respond right away by saying something like “About what?” (There arenʼt a lot of options as far as responses go with this opening text, which is why I like it so much.)
- Itʼll take her a while to get back to you but eventually sheʼll give you a similar “about what” kind of response. Thatʼs OK. Key to this whole process is you feeling confident and in control. Chill out. Do your work. Check your phone every once in a while. Itʼs totally possible that she didnʼt notice her phone vibrate, that sheʼs at a class at the gym or the doctor, in a meeting etc. Just wait.
- She wonʼt get back to you at all.
Letʼs cover option one and two first . . .
If she responds with a “About what” type of text (any variation will do):
Reply with:
- ” You: “About you.”Or
- ” “About how much I love you.”And thatʼs it. (Hopefully you really do love your wife. Though if you didnʼt you probably wouldnʼt be reading this.)Sheʼll probably respond with some kind of “=-)” or a “Oh, thatʼs so sweet.” kind of thing or say “thank you! I love you too!”Either way, thatʼs enough for our first day. Just let things go from there. Continue on with your day.When you see her that night . . .
Itʼs totally possible that sheʼll spontaneously thank you for the text and say something like “That totally put a smile on my face all day.”
Thatʼs a GOOD sign. Women love this kind of attention. Itʼs like sunshine on a flower for them.
If she DOESNʼT say anything, then you should bring the text up, say “Did you like that text I sent you today?”
And then gauge her reaction. Most likely itʼs going to be really positive and thankful because women LOVE IT when they find out youʼre thinking about them during the day. I can only think of one or two situations where a woman WOULDNʼT like that kind of text, and both of them are kind of crazy. =-)
If she asks you what inspired you to send that kind of message just say “I was just thinking about you and wanted to let you know.”
Thatʼs all you have to do on day one. Super simple. Easier than even one push up.
If She Doesnʼt Respond
OK, if she doesnʼt respond itʼs for one of a couple reasons . . .
It could be because she has never texted before or just doesnʼt know how to use the texting features on her cell phone.
Or it could be because sheʼs mad at you about something. But even then the odds are sheʼd respond.
(QUICK NOTE: I DO NOT recommend that you start this sequence when youʼre in the middle of a fight with your wife. Itʼs best if you start off in whatever state “neutral” is before you start using this stuff.)
That night say (with a smile) . . .
” “Did you get the text I sent you today?”
And see what her response is.
If itʼs just “Yes! But I didnʼt know how to respond!” then just take a minute to show her how to use text messaging on her phone.
And say youʼve got a “surprise” coming up. Sheʼll like it.
OK, thatʼs day one. Most likely your wife will have a little extra smile on her lips and will be extra affectionate that night. Heck, some guys tell me that JUST THIS ONE THING was enough to get them some really nice sex with their wife.
Of course those same guys are amazed at how much hotter things get when they graduate to the “good” stuff later on.
Day 2: “Clean” Assets
OK, on day one we did a really basic “Iʼm thinking about you” text. The whole goal of that was to establish the IDEA of texting as an “intimate” channel between the two of you.
On day two weʼre just going to push the needle a LITTLE BIT. Not much. Just a LITTLE to get her used to the idea of you sending her a compliment over text.
(Remember, in the main program we go from a “Curiosity pivot” to a “Best Asset” text. Later on youʼre going to go right to her best “sexual” assets, but for now weʼre going to keep things PG.
Hereʼs how itʼs going to go: (START THIS AROUND 11AM) ” You: “You have the most . . .”
And then you wait for a response. It might be a few minutes or even a few hours. Chill out and wait for her to bite. She might be in a meeting or dealing with a crisis or something.
Sheʼll respond with something like “What?” or “Oh, hi! I have the most what?”
And then you reply with . . .
” You: “Beautiful smile. =-)”
Now, we could just send that whole thing as one text, but we want her engaged. We want this to be a two way street. The goal is to get her engaged.
Her response will be something like . . .
” “Aww, thanks, honey.” or “Youʼre just saying that.”
You should respond with something like . . .
- ” You: “Itʼs really gorgeous. Hope youʼre having a great day. Looking forward to
- ” seeing you tonight. =-)”If you want to you can continue back and forth a little bit. Just be complimentary. Talk to her a bit. Tell her sheʼs beautiful, stunning etc. Use a thesaurus if you need to. =-)Then that night when you see her, just comment on her smile again. She might ask you, “whatʼs gotten into you?”
Just say “I donʼt know. Just been thinking about you a lot the last couple days.”
A little sappy? Sure. But sheʼll eat it up like ice cream and waffles and it gets us one step closer.
Again, in day two weʼre just getting her used to getting a compliment over text and reinforcing the idea of using texting as a way for the two of you to communicate.
Day 3: Clean “Do You Remember . . . ”
OK, day 3. So far weʼve done a “thinking of you” text and a “Clean asset” text where we comment on her beautiful smile.
In todayʼs texts weʼre going to raise the heat a bit.
Weʼre going to bring up a past experience the two of you had but instead of getting really sexual with it weʼre going to be a little more romantic and clean.
Again, in the main material for this course I talk about “Revivifying” past sexual experiences. This is basically the same thing but more PG.
By now sheʼs probably actually going to be looking forward to your texts and has probably already told her best friend about what youʼre doing with gushing excitement.
Donʼt be surprised if her friends start eyeing you up and down a little bit or if your buddies say youʼre making them look bad. Hey man, it happens.
Hereʼs all you have to send today . . .
” You: “I was just remembering . . . =-)”
The little smiley is to enforce the “this is a fun game” aspect of this. Sheʼll probably already see it that way.
” Her: “Hi! Remembering what?”
Now you need to bring up a really romantic night from early on in your marriage or courtship. One of the first nights you guys really fell for each other.
If that night ended in headboard cracking sex, thatʼs great but itʼs not entirely necessary at this point.
You donʼt need to be all poetic here or anything like that. For instance, you could say something like . . .
” You: “How amazing you looked the night we met . . .”
And then just have a really nice little back and forth with her. Donʼt worry about the content or trying to be clever or sexual here. Just reminisce a little bit, but focus on being complimentary in a simple way and talking about how she has some sexual power over you.
- You: “I was so nervous walking up to you.”
- ” Her: “Were you?”Let it go on as long as it goes on.When things feel like theyʼre tapering out because one of you is getting busy, end it with.
” You: “(Her name), you are so sexy.”
(You can also swear here if you want to or use some other kind of adverb.)
That night you should follow up a little. Tell her sheʼs sexy. See how sheʼs reacting to you. Itʼs totally possible sheʼll have a bit more a sashay in her hips and will be more affectionate than usual. Thatʼs a GOOD sign.
Day 4: “Baby Steps To Sensuality”
OK, over the last few days weʼve been laying groundwork. Now weʼre going to build on that groundwork and start getting her turned on a little bit. Weʼre no going to go as sexual as youʼre going to want to in the future, but this is going to get you started.
So . . .
” You: “Stop it . . . =-)”
Sheʼll respond with a variation of “Stop what?”
By this point sheʼll also be expecting fun over text messaging and will probably have been looking forward to it all day. In fact, if you DONʼT text her on day 4 she might wonder what the heck is going on.
- ” You: “Distracting me . . .”
- ” You: “I canʼt stop thinking about how gorgeous you looked this
- ” morning . . .”Weʼre going to use the morning because thereʼs usually time pressure there which explains why you didnʼt act and pounce on her then.OK, now itʼs our first time that weʼre really going to start making this overtly sexual. And you just gotta GO THERE and pick your favorite asset.
- ” You: “I should be working but I keep thinking about your (ass, breasts, pick
- ” your favorite body part.)”If youʼve gotten to day four sheʼll DEFINITELY be warmed up enough for this.Either way youʼve got to wait for a response.Again, sheʼll respond with something like “You like it?” or “Really?” or sometimes “No I donʼt.” but we try to avoid that one =-)
- ” You: “Yup. Mesmerizing.”
- ” You: “If you were here right now Iʼd . . .”Sheʼll respond with something like “what? What? WHAT?”
- ” You: “Peel your clothes off and run my hands down every inch of you.”
She may respond here with something like “Ugh, Iʼm out of shape” or some other BS. In that case you just need to reassure her and say ..
- ” You: “Nope. (NAME), you are SUCH a sexy woman.”
(If youʼre brave: Substitute with “You are such a sexy bitch. =-)”
- ” You: “I love the shape of you. You turn me on so freaking much.”
OK, that “I love the shape of you” line is like a nuclear weapon aimed at a womanʼs heart and sexual mind. Seriously powerful stuff.
You can continue it from here but DONʼT get really sexual on her yet. You want to hold back a little.
Itʼs actually totally possible that at this point SHEʼLL be the one to get sexual with you.
If that happens, let it and start using some of the more advanced material. OR if you want you can pull things back a little bit.
The advantage to pulling back is that it gets HER to feel like the aggressor to some small degree and will make your job on Day 5 that much easier.
Day 5: “Graduation Day”
OK, day five is the day where we finally amp things up and use the full “Text Your Wife Into Bed” process and dig deeper into your wifeʼs sexual mind.
She should DEFINITELY be ready by now. Iʼm not saying you have to go “super dirty” here, but you SHOULD dive in, follow the process and narrate a brief sexual fantasy for her.
Personally, I wouldnʼt recommend trying to “seal the deal” necessarily on your first day. Itʼs totally fine just to amp things up to the point where she wants to give you a big kiss when you get home, or where she rubs herself against you in the kitchen.
Again, that 4 step process is . . .
- Curiosity Pivot
- Establish her sexual power/your lust.
- Fantasy Storytelling Using Multiple Senses
- Build Anticipation/Seal The Deal
If you look back at the last 4 days of texts, you should realize that weʼve already started to use this process, but in a slightly less sexual way. If sheʼs anything like the many, many women this process has been used on, your wife should be totally primed by now, and hopefully youʼve gained the confidence you need to use the full force of this system.
So breathe deep, stretch out your thumbs and go for the gold. Itʼll be worth it, I promise.
Of Course There Is One Other Option . . .
One last thing I should mention before closing this out. Personally, I recommend the 4 day “Ice Breaker” as a great way to get started (and to get “addicted” to texting in this way.)
But Iʼve gotten emails from several guys who have taken an easier route.
Theyʼve basically just said “Hey, I got this ʻtext your wife into bedʼ thing think Iʼm going to try it out on you.”
And shockingly their wives have been totally up for it and have dived right in. Weird, I know. But whatever works, right?
OK, now that youʼve finished the “Ice Breaker” youʼre ready to move on to the main Text Your Wife Into Bed Manual.
You may want to review the videos again as well.
