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Introduction And How To Use This Manual 

Quick note: If you havenʼt already, please go back and watch the Text Your Wife Into Bed video training modules (or listen to the audio downloads) before digging into this manual. 

The material in this manual is meant to be complimentary to the video training and to shorten your learning curve as you start to use text messaging to increase the heat and sex in your marriage. While you can learn a lot just by skimming through this material, past experience has shown me youʼll get faster and better results if you go through the video training first.

This manual is the “pedal to the metal” section of your Text Your Wife Into Bed training. While the videos and audio downloads cover all of the “theory” how to use text messaging to add more heat, spark and sex into your marriage (or relationship. A shockingly high number of unmarried guys have discovered this material), this manual is where the rubber really hits the road and I give you the examples and “Done for you” tools you need to get started.

In this manual youʼll find a collection of tested and proven pivots, “lust establishers,” Multisensual texts, “Primal Connectors,” texting story lines, “anticipation builders” and more to get you started.

As you “get this” you can (and should) create original texts of your own, but for now you can use these “as written” without your woman being any the wiser. (Most guys tend to find a few favorite patterns, storylines or angles to use and stick to them again and again with only minor variation.)

Quick note: Iʼm always looking to expand and improve this material. If you come up with killer texts of your own and want to share them with the world, just email me at Michael@textyourwifeintobed.com . . . If they pass muster and testing, Iʼll include them in the next revision of the product and will give you credit for helping out.

(And, of course, as a customer, you get lifetime upgrades to revised versions of this content absolutely free.)

Good luck and let me know how it goes with your wife. Best,
Michael Fiore

The Text Your Wife Into Bed “Formula” in four easy steps . . . 

1. Step One: Use a “Curiosity Pivot” to get her attention, test the waters, engage her in conversation and start the “context switch” from everyday BS to sexual communication.

2. Step 2: Establish Your Lust For Her/Her Sexual Power. We do this using MASCULINE sexual language (this is about how much YOU want HER) and by either sending her an asset text (her best physical features) or by “Revivifying” a past sexual experience – recent or even in the distant past.

3. Step 3: Multi-sensual Storytelling. Use FEMININE sexual language (imagine, feel) to narrate a fantasy sexual experience. This experience can be a factual one from your shared past (“That time we had dirty sex at Disney World.”), one from the future (“What Iʼm going to do when you get home tonight.”) or a fantasy about the present (“If you were here right now Iʼd bend you over my desk and . . . )

 

• NOTE 1: The key to multi-sensual storytelling is to use as much detail as possible and to continually focus on how things FEEL emotionally and physically.
• NOTE 2: While you narrate the fantasy as “Your” fantasy, itʼs largely focused on HER pleasure, HER sensations, HER orgasm etc. (See examples in video and in this manual.)
• NOTE 3: You are in charge. While creating this fantasy for her you have complete control over what she feels and how she reacts. Plant seeds now for the kind of experience you want her to have in person.

 

4. Build Anticipation and Seal the deal. Send “Anticipation builder” texts to keep her excited and turned on. Take care of distractions so youʼll be able to act. Give her small (or even large) orders/promise surprises to build her excitement.

5. Take your wife to bed. =-) 

(See examples of each type of text later in this manual. Watch the training videos for MUCH more detail on how this works.)

 

The Dead Simple 1 . . . 2 . . . 3 Checklist For Getting Your Wife Into Bed . . . 

NOTE: Make sure you follow the “Ice Breaker” sequence for several days before diving into this. You may want to print this up for use. 

☐ Check cell phone battery. (No dying cell phone during this.) Make sure youʼre comfortable with keyboard, no “accidental texting” etc.

☐ 10:15 AM – Send her your first “Curiosity Pivot.” Remember, any open-ended statement will do. “So . . .,” “I was just thinking . . .” “You are such . . .” etc.

☐ Wait for a response. If you donʼt get one, let this fish go for now. Your timing is probably just off. You can try again in an hour or wait until tomorrow.

☐ Before 11AM Send “Lust Establisher” text. Pick either an “Asset” text or an “I remember” text (or a combo text) for this. “About how beautiful you looked this morning.”

☐ Wait for response. If she comes back with a low self esteem response, youʼll need to spend extra time reinforcing.

☐ Send 2 – 5 more texts reinforcing the lust establisher before moving on.

☐ Begin “Multisensory Storytelling.” Start with “Done for you” phrases from manual. Pick either “Past experience,” “Present Fantasy” or “What Iʼm going to do” storyline.

☐ Keep story going for 1 hour (more if sheʼs into it) as the day goes by.
☐ During Story pick one 10 minute period to go quiet. This will drive her NUTS and

will have her asking when youʼll be back.
☐ Bring fantasy to end. Narrate her orgasm.
☐ Around 2PM (If planning for this evening) begin Anticipation Builder Texts.

☐ Stress Relievers – Assure her that youʼve taken care of distractions. ☐ “Order” Texts – get her into the mindset for tonight.

☐ 2 Hours before youʼll see her. More anticipation builders and orders. Tell her EXACTLY what to do when she gets home. Ask her if sheʼs “Ready.”

☐ At Home: Take your wife to bed.

“Done For You” Texts And Text “Building Blocks”

In this section Iʼll give you a bunch of “Done for you” texts of each type that you can use right away with your wife. Iʼll also give you “Building blocks” of great texts, power words that cause a visceral reaction in women and other pieces of the “Text Your Wife Into Bed” vocabulary.

Feel free to use any or all of these texts or to create your own. If you come up with a text of any category that works particularly well, email me at Michael@textyourwifeintobed.com and Iʼll include it in the next update to the manual.”

A Quick Note On Swearing . . .

Youʼll notice that a lot of these texts have both “vulgar” and “clean” versions (though even the “clean” ones still get sexual and dirty.)

One question I get a lot is “Michael, should I swear in my texts.” Ultimately thatʼs up to you. In my experience, swearing can be a great way to complete the context switch from “everyday boring life” to “her sexual fantasy land.”

There are some women who are 100% turned off by swearing or by words like “Pussy” or “Slut.”

While there are other women (many of them totally prim and proper in the “real world”) who are driven absolutely wild by that kind of language.

So should you swear in your texts?

Totally up to you. Iʼd recommend testing the waters in your texting. If she reacts positively, swear like a sailor. If not, itʼs no big deal. It just means you get to be more creative.

Either way, the principles and steps I teach you are the same.

Just as a note: When I sent the “Beta” version of this material out for review, I only had two women out of over 30 who said they were “turned off” or “offended” by any of the language here. The vast majority said it was “totally right” and that they got turned on just reading it.

“Curiosity Pivots” (Step 1 Texts) 

The curiosity pivot is the first text youʼll send your wife in order to create the “context of sexiness.” Curiosity Pivots are NOT in themselves overtly sexual. At this point youʼre basically just “fishing” in order to get her attention, build curiosity and get her into the “game” youʼre playing.

(notice the “. . .” in most of these. Thatʼs a way to denote a incomplete thought and let her know that thereʼs more coming and that she should respond. See the “Examples” pdf for examples of how all of this hooks together or review the material covered in your training videos.)

So . . .

“I was thinking . . .”

“Canʼt stop thinking about . . .”

“Do you know . . . ?”

“Wow . . . =-)”

“Mmm . . .”

“You are so . . .”

“You are so fucking . . .” (This one plays your hand more. Again, whether you swear or not is totally up to you..)

“Why the . . . ?”
“Canʼt concentrate with you doing that . . . “ (What sheʼs “doing” is being distractingly sexy just by being herself.)

“Oh . . .”

“Oh my God . . .”

“You make me feel so . . .”

“Did you feel that?” (Great “teasing” open. From here you can talk about some energy between the two of you.)

“Tell me . . .”

Any short, incomplete, playful sentence or thought will do the job. Remember to have FUN with it. Your intention is EVERYTHING here.

Lust Establishers (Step 2 texts.) 

These are lines to establish your lust for HER and how sexy she is.

You may have to do some work in this section to overcome low self esteem, but keep at it. For some of these I have more “advanced” versions you can use once your wife is used to being talked to and seduced this way. Remember, you want to keep her in that mental space. You generally want to stick to how she looks, feels or smells.

Lust establishers have two main categories: “Asset” texts where you talk about her best asset and “I remember” texts where you “Revivify” a past sexual experience with her.

You can also combine the two . . .

“Your beautiful ass . . .” (Or any other body part she thinks of as her best attribute.) “Your beautiful fucking ass . . .” (Notice how the F bomb adds a sort of visceral punctuation to it.)

“The shape of you . . .” (nice way of saying it without getting as dirty. Saying “I canʼt stop thinking about the shape of you” will melt most women.)

“How much you turn me on . . .”

“Your eyes” (A little more romantic. But it works.)

“That devlish sparkle in your eyes . . .”

“The way your eyes smile at me when you . . .” (From there you can describe our favorite sex act.)

Your lips (If youʼve already established the dirty channel you can even say “The way your lips looked around my cock.”)

“The way you feel against me . . .” (More advanced/sexual “The way your ass feels against me.”)

“How hot you are =-)” (This one is a nice “lead in.” If sheʼs more resistant to the dirty stuff, start closer to here and move up. This is kind of fun and teasing but doesnʼt establish “heat” as well as the dirtier, more sensual stuff.”)

“Ugh. I canʼt get any work done with you in my mind like that.” (Just establishing her “Mindshare.” Women love it when they feel like theyʼre on your mind.)

“The smell of you . . .” (Women LOVE being smelled. Smells rock.)
“That smile of yours.” (Need to follow this up with something dirtier as you go.) “The way you move your hips.”
“Your feet . . .” (If youʼre into feet and she knows it and likes it.)
“Your neck . . .” (Follow this with some hyper descriptive language.)

“The smell of your hair . . . the way your ass pushes back against me . . .” “The taste of your skin . . .”
“How wet you get when I . . .” (Again, more advanced.)

“That time at (PLACE)” (Whatever “weird” or fun place you guys had some really good sex. Iʼve got some friends who, this to day, talk about the time they had sex at Ikea. Turns them both on like crazy.)

“The way your eyes looked me up and down that first time we met . . .”

“How fucking beautiful you looked coming out of the shower this morning . . .” (A slight combo text here. That wasnʼt a sexual experience for her, but it was for you. Sheʼll blush, I promise.)

“How I get weak in the knees when you smile at me . . .”

Storytellers And Fantasy Creators (Step 3 Texts) 

Multi-sensual storytelling (fantasy creation) is probably the hardest thing for a guy to “get” when he first starts learning how to seduce his wife over text message.

Since every relationship is different, itʼs more or less impossible for me to give you a “one size fits all” fantasy that EVERY woman is going to respond to.

But I can tell you that ALL women respond to emotional and sensual language, “ownership” language (which I cover more in the advanced course and shouldnʼt be used lightly) and fantasies where sheʼs allowed to relax into the experience, open herself up and give in to her sexuality.

Remember, youʼve got several goals in your text messaging (all leading to the BIG goal of getting your wife into bed and really enjoying the experience:

You want to . . .

• ”  AWAKEN her sexuality (where attention goes, energy flows.)
• ”  Make her feel sexy (which is why we establish her sexual power in step 2, but it continues here.)

” Give her PERMISSION to feel these sexual impulses and ACT on them. (Which we accomplish by being a strong, dominant, non-creepy man and by creating the fantasy ourself. That we she can just “go along” with it without taking responsibility.)

You can see some full examples of Multi-sensual storytelling both in the videos and in the “Examples” section of this manual.

Below I give you some individual words to pepper into your texts in order to get her sexual mind focused, some powerful PHRASES to use and then give you some basic fantasy story lines to use . . .

Note the use of powerful verbs in this language the almost complete lack of adjectives. This is all about descriptive action.

Individual words to work into your texts 

 

• “Imagine” (This is like an ATOM BOMB . . . no person, man or woman, can resist the power of the imagination.)
• “Feel” (Listen to two women talk and youʼll be amazed how often they use this word. Since multisensual storytelling is about speaking HER sexual language, youʼll want to use it liberally.)
• Remember” (Much like imagine it causes her to go “internal” and start experiencing the sensations you describe.)
• “Scratch” (I scratch my nails along your skin causing you to shudder.)
• “Thrust”
• “Hips” (“You thrust your hips back against me.”)
• “Ass”
• “Cock” (Some people do hate this word but itʼs a hell of a lot better than “Penis.” If your wife doesnʼt like the word “cock” you may need to substitute “Manhood,” “member” or something else.)
• “Pussy” (Same as above. Most women dig this word when used properly “Your beautiful little pussy” but you may need to find a substitute.
• “Fuck” (Even if you donʼt normally swear, dropping the F bomb does a great job of switching context from “everyday boring” to “sexual focus.” You may want to save actual swearing for special occasions/times when youʼre “overcome with your lust for her.”)
• “Sexy”
• “Smell”
• “Taste”
• “Tongue”
• “Mouth”
• “Lips”
• “Cunt” (Really depends on the woman. Some find this very offensive. Then again, some women who find this very offensive in everyday life actually LOVE IT when theyʼre properly turned on.)
• “Hair” (“I pull your hair.” “You feel my fingers in your hair.”)
• “Eyes” (“I look you right in the eyes.” “Your eyes lock on mine.”)
• “Neck”
• “Throat”
• Thighs”
• “Lick”
• “Nibble”
• “Come” (“You come like a freight train.” “You smile as you realize how close I am to coming.”
• “Orgasm”
• “Explode”
• “Fingers”
• “Skin”
• “Face”
• “Whisper”
• “Sexy bitch” (Works great in a playful way: “Youʼre such a sexy bitch.” =-))
• Slut (Very few women want to be thought of as a “slut,” but MANY women want be able to act like a slut with THEIR man. Itʼs shockingly easy to get your woman to say that sheʼs “your slut” and enjoy it if you do the groundwork first. Donʼt be afraid of this kind of language.)
• “Melt” (“Your muscles melt against my hands.”)
• “Delicious”
• “Beautiful”
• “Fucking beautiful”
• “Shudder”
• “Shiver” (“You feel a shiver down your spine.”
• “Sweat”
• “Spank”
• “Energy” (“You feel this energy building in your body.”)
• “Heat”
• “Giggle”
• “Laugh”
• “Grab”
• “Force”
• “Relax” (See “The waterfall” bonus for a lot of relaxation based stuff.) “Shock” (“You feel a SHOCK through your body”)
• “Canʼt stop”
• “Realize”
• “Dirty”
• “Tense up”
• “Push”
• “Puuuuush”
• “Pounce”
• “Pressure”
• “Pull”
• “Stunning”
• “Ravishing”
• “Gorgeous”
• “Amazing”
• “Astonishing”
• “Slap”
• “Blink”
• “Breathe”
• “Caress”
• “Swallow”

 

 

Phrases To Use in your text 

(Notice how these are built using the individual “power words” from above.)

 

• “You feel my fingers in your hair” (Almost all women enjoy having their hair pulled . . . just donʼt be dumb about it.)
• “You feel my weight on top of you” (Every woman Iʼve known likes the weight of a man on her.)
• “You sink into the mattress as you feel my weight on top of you and realize that you are totally relaxed.”
• “I canʼt stop imagining . . .” (Great way to set the scene. Notice that youʼre saying that youʼre the one imagining it. This gives her permission to go there as part of YOUR fantasy without having to judge herself or get down on herself for having these thoughts even though itʼs really HER fantasy that youʼre creating.)
• “And then . . .” (Incomplete thoughts are very powerful. Do this right and sheʼll be begging you to tell her what happens next. You can keep stacking “And then” phrases . . . “And then you feel my fingers pressing against your wet pussy, and then you blah blah. . .” Eventually sheʼll get VERY interested in whatʼs coming next.)
• “You feel my hands on your hips . . .”
• “You giggle as you feel my hands grab your hips . . . my hard cock pressing against you . . . as I sink inside…”
• “My fingers crawl across your skin . . .”
• “We lock eyes” (Women LOVE connection like this. Very erotic.)
• “Your eyes lock on mine as you finally come . . .” (Your woman will LOVE The idea of her orgasm coming from you.)
• “I whisper in your ear.”
• “You thrust back against me” (Youʼre telling her what you want her to do and establishing that youʼre the dominant party.)
• “And then, finally, you have a fucking amazing orgasm” (Youʼre in charge of her orgasm.)
• “I buck against you and then come hard inside you and collapse on top of you, totally exhausted.” (Ridiculous, right? but it works! Thereʼs something primal and sexy about orgasming inside a woman. Even if sheʼs on birth control, thereʼs that small bit of “danger” that adds a spark to the event.)
• “You feel this hot, overwhelming fire building up inside you . . . spreading from your pussy, up into your stomach, all over your body . . . “(Remember, where attention goes, energy flows. You want her whole body involved in the process.)
• “Your whole body SHUDDERS as you wait. And then FINALLY you feel that delightful sting as you feel my hand smack your beautiful ass.”

 

Texting Storylines 

Honestly, there are as many story lines and fantasies you can use in your texts as there are women in the world. One of your jobs as your wifeʼs lover is to get into her head, discover what REALLY turns her on . . . and give it to her.

Basically, you describe the situation youʼre in (at work, at a meeting, stuck in a hotel room) and describe what you would do to her if she were with you right now.

Since sheʼs NOT there right now and isnʼt GOING TO BE it actually gives you free reign to go a little crazy, talk about fucking on your desk or in public, talk about sneaking a hand onto her thigh at a restaurant etc.

The basic bones of the storyline are . . .

• *  “I canʼt stop thinking about” (her best assets. Her in general.)
• *  “I am so turned on for you right now.”
• *  “If you were here right now I would . . .”
• *  Describe in detail the fantasy (remember, this needs to be HER fantasy even morethan yours.)

Itʼs totally possible (actually probably) that your wife has some deep rooted fantasies sheʼs never told you about. (Just like you have a whole bunch of fantasies youʼve never told her about.)

The wonderful thing is that as you start “waking up” her sexuality and give her permission to be her sexual self sheʼll start to open up about these fantasies.

Then its your job to start feeding her her fantasies back to her in language she responds to. (Whether sheʼs into light bondage, the idea of dressing up, group sex or whatever.)

Big note that just because a woman FANTASIZES about something doesnʼt mean that she actually wants to DO it.

And just because you say something in a text doesnʼt mean either of you actually wants it to happen in person.

Donʼt be dumb. =-)

No matter what, your text fantasies are really going to fall into 3 basic categories.

Category 1: “What Iʼm going to do” (Future pace or future fantasy)

In this category of fantasy youʼre painting a picture of what youʼre “going to do to her” when you get the chance. This is especially effective when youʼre building up to a

“special night” with your wife, but can also be used to paint a picture of fantasies she never actually intends to realize.

One of the “weird” things about this category is that even though you start off in the future, you actually change the tense of your language to the present pretty quickly. This is because you want her to experience what youʼre talking about as she receives the texts and the subconscious mind canʼt process the future.

The basic bones of the storyline are . . .

• *  I canʼt stop thinking about how amazingly sexy you are.
• *  Iʼm not going to be able to resist myself.
• *  When I see you Iʼm going to (describe HER fantasy. You massage her, lick along herback, let her relax completely etc.)
• *  Description of you being playfully dominant.
• *  “Most amazing orgasm ever. You feel this amazing explosion of white, hot energythrough your whole body.”Category 2: “What we did” (Revivify Past experience with enhancement.)Revivification story lines are the easiest for you to get started with because they donʼt require nearly as much imagination on your part. Instead of having to create a fantasy, you simply take a great sexual experience you had with your wife (whether it was last night or 15 years ago) and use descriptive language to bring it back into her mind and make it real.As an assignment, Iʼd recommend that you write up a quick document with your top 3 – 5 sexual experiences with your wife and start thinking about how youʼd use them in this context.

  The basic bones of the storyline are . . .

• *  Do you remember . . . (Event . . . “That time we went to Paris, you wore that shortskirt to the Eiffel tower and . . .”)
• *  Describe the event while revealing what was going on in your mind at the time(even if you have to make it up.) (“I remember being there above you, my cockpushing inside you, just marveling at how fucking beautiful you are.”)
• *  Move through the entire event to the biig finish. (“And then you had this amazingorgasm right against me. This little smile crawled across your face.”)
• *  Describe how you canʼt wait to do the same thing to her when you next see her.Category 3: “What Iʼd do if you were here” . . . (Fantasy often of public or “risky” sex.)Category 3 story lines are pure fantasy and work the best because sheʼs NOT there with you right now.

Basically, you describe the situation youʼre in (at work, at a meeting, stuck in a hotel room) and describe what you would do to her if she were with you right now.

Since sheʼs NOT there right now and isnʼt GOING TO BE it actually gives you free reign to go a little crazy, talk about fucking on your desk or in public, talk about sneaking a hand onto her thigh at a restaurant etc.

The basic bones of the storyline are . . .

• *  “I canʼt stop thinking about” (her best assets. Her in general.)
• *  “I am so turned on for you right now.”
• *  “If you were here right now I would . . .”
• *  Describe in detail the fantasy (remember, this needs to be HER fantasy even morethan yours.)

Anticipation Builders (Step 4 Texts) 

Lines to use either after you complete the fantasy or during a “break” in order to build her up to the actual event (which is you getting your wife to have hot and enthusiastic sex with you.)

“When you get home . . .”

• “Hereʼs whatʼs going to happen” (Again, thereʼs some good dominance here. She should respond well to it.) “Iʼm going to . . .”
• “Youʼre going to lay there and relax as I . . .” (Talking her through a massage works well here and this is a good dominance establisher.)
• “You canʼt stop thinking about it, can you? =-)” (Even if she CAN stop thinking about it, you plant the idea that she canʼt which will cause her to think about it MORE.)
• “Can you imagine how itʼs going to feel when you see me?” (This immediately gets her looking inward and thinking dirty thoughts about you.)
• “How excited are you right now?” (Demands a response or you can tell her how excited she is.)
• “Iʼve got a surprise for you.”
• “Tic tic tic =-)” (The time is coming when Iʼm going to do these things to you.) “Almost time . . .”
• “I canʼt wait until . . .”
• “Everything is ready so that I can . . .”
• “Youʼre going to feel sooo good.”
• “Can you feel it yet?”

 

Stress Reducers 

Most women these days are ridiculously stressed out. Your job is to get rid of her stressors and assure her that things are taken care of so she can relax and really feel sexy.

 

• “I took care of everything =-)”
• “All you have to do tonight is relax.” “Your only job tonight is to relax.”
• “I left my cell phone at the office.”

 

Orders 

OK, some guys take this “ordering” thing too far and think it means being a misogynistic dick. Again, not what Iʼm going for. Instead, you want to give your woman small orders that show that youʼre in charge and that all she has to do is go along for the ride.

They can really be anything: You can give orders based off her favorite fantasies, can tell her to wear an outfit you really like or could just be ways for you to add some spice to the situation.

 

• “When you get home I want you to . . .”
• “Leave your panties in the car . . .”
• “Go into the bedroom, lay down on the bed and close your eyes.” “Meetmeatahotel.. .”
• “Stay quiet. I donʼt want you to say anything as I make you feel sooo good.” “If you want to get your surprise youʼll have to . . .”
• “Leave your skirt on.”
• “Iʼm going to put a blindfold on you.”

 

“Primal Text Connectors” 

These are simple texts you can use to communicate lust on a primal level or to connect other texts. Theyʼre basically just “primal grunts” that communicate your lust for her and that youʼre something of a “beast” who canʼt help but get turned on by her.

 

• “grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr” (maybe a smiley at the end. Nice way to communicate your masculine lust. She makes you growl.)
• “mmmmmmmmmm” (A little more feminine, but tells her youʼre focusing on a thought or experience. Communicates a “this ice cream is so fucking good” kind of idea.)
• “dammit!” (Frustration communicator. Youʼre overwhelmed by your lust for her.)
• “Fuck, I want you.” (Same idea. Just reiterate the obvious and give her feminine power.)
• “Sexy bitch. =-)” (Smiley is important here. Make sure sheʼs at the place where she doesnʼt mind being called a bitch in a playful way.)
• “Slut =-)” (Shockingly easy to get to the point where sheʼll actually like this. Smiley helps.)
• “Dear God woman.” “Oooo.”
• “(her name) . . .”

 

 

Examples . . . 

Breaking down specific examples of Sex-Creating Text Messages. 

With Michael Fiore

NOTE: Before you dig into this PDF, I highly recommend you go through the introduction and first two modules of the “Text Your Wife Into Bed” course. That will give you the foundation you need to really understand how these texts are structured and why theyʼre so effective. 

I also comment on each of these texts as they go back and forth so you can really dig into the structure and see how much fun this can be.

Example 1 – 

The situation: “Sarah” and “Jim” are a married couple in their mid thirties. Theyʼre both busy professionals with one young son at home. They had a ton of sex before having a baby, but obviously that changed things.

Jim still thinks Sarah is hot as hell, but she doesnʼt feel very sexy due to being a “Mommy” so much of the time. A lot of their communication during the day has been basic “buddy” stuff talking about the logistics of their lives together.

Jim wants to change that and (frankly) get a blowjob for the first time in ages.

Letʼs walk through it . . .

Step 1: The Curiosity Pivot 

In order to get Sarahʼs attention, Jim is going to use a “Curiosity Pivot.” Thatʼs a vague question or statement designed to force her to respond that shifts the context of the conversation.

In the mid afternoon, while take a short break from work, Jim texts . . .

Jim: So I was just thinking . . . 

Notice that thereʼs nothing sexual about the curiosity pivot. Itʼs just bait on a hook designed to get Sarahʼs attention.

Sarah: About what? 

At this point Sarah has no idea what Jimʼs up to. For all she knows he could be thinking about needing new socks.

Now that Jimʼs got Sarahʼs attention (even just a little) itʼs time for him to establish a sexual context for the conversation (and start reserving texting as a “dirty channel” with Sarah by using . . .

Step 2: Tell Her How Much She Turns You on. 

Depending on how dirty he wants to take things (and how open Sarah is to that kind of language) Jim has some options here.

The key is to tell her that: A. Jim lusts after her. B. Sheʼs a sexy fucking woman. Personally, I often like to use shocking language and vulgarity here.

Jimʼs always been a big fan of Sarahʼs ass and he knows she thinks its her best feature, so he decides to go there.

Jim: About your beautiful fucking ass =-) 

Note that the little smiley face is optional. It really depends on the tone youʼre establishing. Usually in step one and two you want to be pretty playful, but youʼre going to move to dirtyville pretty fast.

Now Sarah has literally NEVER received a text message like this before. And itʼs not the way sheʼs used to being talked to by JIm.

She could have one or two different responses here.

Response one will be a sort of “tentative delight.” Sheʼll see where Jim is going and be grateful pretty much right away.

In that case, sheʼll say something like . . .

Sarah: Really? What about it? 

Jim takes that as a sign heʼs got her “on the hook” and says . . . 

Jim: How gorgeous it looked when you were getting dressed this morning. . . When you bent over I just wanted to . ..

Notice how he leaves an incomplete thought here. Thatʼs a great way to keep Sarah engaged no matter what sheʼs doing.

Sarah: wanted to what? 

Jim: Lick my way from your neck all the way down your back to your pussy. 

Since Jim definitely has her on the hook he feels pretty confident that he can “go there.” Note that in this whole section heʼs really talking about HIS DESIRE FOR HER. Heʼs Establishing that she is a sexy woman and that she drives him CRAZY with desire.

This is like sunshine to a flower. Sheʼll respond well to it.

Quick note on the language: You may have to build up over time to really DIRTY language, but I recommend putting at least some of it in right from the beginning. Remember, that since weʼre establishing text as a “Dirty channel” youʼll be able to say things to her over text that you wouldnʼt be able to say in any other situation.

Now, what Sarah SAYS here isnʼt that important. But most likely, whatever sheʼs doing, sheʼll have a little bit of a thrill go through her just from hearing something like that.

Sheʼll probably say something like . . .

Sarah: OMG! =-) 

Women love using those little online versions of words. I recommend that you stick to real words. It establishes more power.

Jim: Seriously, Sarah. You have no idea ho much you fucking turn me on. 

Just icing on the cake here.
Now that Sarah is engaged, itʼs time for Jim to move on to . . .

Step 3: Taking control through Multisensual texting. 

Big words here, but the real idea is that this is the place where Jim needs to move from HIS lust to creating HER lust. That means using sexual language that women respond to. Which means talking about IMAGINATION, FEELING etc.

After Jimʼs last text, Sarah says something like . . .

Sarah: Rlly? 

(She needs reassurance.)

(Jim sends the following texts in rapid succession. Youʼll need a unlimited plan to do this right.)

Jim: I can barely concentrate. 

Jim: Iʼm just imagining you laid out on the bed in front of me . . . Jim: That beautiful ass in front of me . . .

Jim: You feel my hands on your back . . .

Jim: My tongue on your skin . . . 

Jim: The weight of me on top of you on the bed. 

Sarah: ooo. Iʼm working . . . 

(When she says something like that itʼs a challenge, not a stop sign. Keep going. She LIKES that youʼre breaking the rules.)

Also, notice the use of the words IMAGINE and FEEL. These are your new best friends.

Jim: Your hips start to move against me. Searching.

Jim: You feel my hard cock press against you . . .

Sarah: Jim!

Jim: My hands move down to your hips. I spread your legs open. Jim: And then . . . 

Sarah: what?

Jim: I push into you HARD . . . Sarah: Ohhh. 

Notice that Jim isnʼt asking permission here and heʼs not asking if itʼs “OK for him to do this stuff.” Heʼs taking command. Also notice that this is framed as HIS fantasy even though itʼs all about what SHE feels. This gives her permission to really go ANYWHERE in the fantasy because itʼs HIS idea.

From here Jim can really get as dirty as he wants to. And Sarah will pretty much LOVE it because it takes her out of her real life (dealing with customers, picking up their son etc.)

Jim: You buck your hips back against me. I canʼt control myself. Jim: You look back at me over your shoulder . . . And then . . . 

Sarah: And then . . .?!

Jim: You COME while looking me in the eyes. 

(Obviously, this fantasy can go anywhere you want it to. One of the keys is to figure out specifically what turns YOUR woman on, but most women respond really well to fantasies about being “Taken” by their man.

Sarah: OMG, Jim!

Jim: Mmm.

Sarah: What else do I do? 

(This is REALLY common. If you do your job right sheʼll start asking you to continue the narration. Depending on how much time there is until you see her you can keep building heat or you can start teasing her towards doing what you want.)

Jim continues narrating the fantasy for a while.

Step 4: Anticipation and closing the deal. 

After Jim has built up this fantasy, his job is to take the sexual energy from his “dirty channel” and use it to create a situation where something similar to the fantasy can really take place.

To do that heʼs got to:
1. Build up anticipation and
2. Create the situation where she has permission to be sexy and do the deed.

This is where Jim asks her how his narration made her FEEL, gives some orders and builds towards the next time theyʼre together. Be careful not to break the spell.

Jim: Did you like that?

Sarah: yesssss =-) Youʼre dirty.

Jim: A little.

Sarah: A lot. I like it.

Jim: Youʼre going to like it even more when . . . Sarah: When . . .? 

Jim: When you feel what Iʼm going to do to you tonight. Sarah: Whatʼs that?

Jim: No. That would be telling.

Sarah: Jim! 

Jim: When you get home, go right to our room. Take off your clothes and lie down. 

Sarah: . . . OK . . . and then what? 

And it proceeds from there most likely leading to some damn good sex that they both really enjoy.

As you can see, the whole process is pretty simple. The hardest part is the narration of the fantasy scene for her, which is why Iʼve included some “done for you”  versions.

Example 2: 

OK, hereʼs a second example stream, this time with minimal commentary.

It follows the EXACT same pattern and structure as the first one. Heck, you may want to challenge yourself to pick out each section.

This time weʼll use Brad and Melanie as our couple. Theyʼre in their forties with 3 kids, all in their teens.

Melanie doesnʼt work, Brad is a VP. Brad has been using the Text Your Wife Into Bed System for a while and has Melanie pretty well “trained” to respond at this point. In fact, since they reserve texting almost exclusively as a dirty channel she gets excited every time she gets a text from him . . .

Heʼs also able to move through the process and get to the “dirty stuff” much more quickly.

Brad: So . . . 

Melanie: Mmm? 

Brad: I was just remembering. . . 

(Remember is also a really powerful word.)

Melanie: Remembering what? 

Brad: The look on your face the last time we had sex . . . 

(very fast establishment of his lust and desire. Heʼs thinking of her in a sexual way.)

Melanie: Mmm. 

(Bringing up a past experience puts her back into that experience. Itʼs shorthand for creating lust.)

Brad: The way your body shuddered when you felt my tongue on you . . . 

(Already moving to her experience. In this case he can use the past experience in place of a fantasy or future experience. Heck, itʼs actually easier.)

Melanie: ohhh . . . that was nice. Brad: Your thighs around my head . . . 

Melanie: You belong down there . . . =-) 

Brad: =-) 

Brad: How the fuck do you turn me on so much? 

Melanie: Hee. 

Brad: Next time I see you Iʼm going to . . . 

Melanie: What? 

And Brad is already at a place where he can start setting the hook for a really good sexual experience.

Some of this stuff ends up being shorthand over time, but the structure is almost always:

Curiosity Pivot (advanced couples can skip this and go right to the dirty stuff.) Establish your lust and her power.
Multisensual Texting
Build Anticipation and move towards actual sex.

Sometimes youʼll just want to text her to tease her without moving towards a specific event.

Got it? Good.

Special Thanks 

To C & J for inspiring this product in the first place. They were my first “Guinea pigs” for this material as well as my first success stories. Amazing what the right words can do, huh?

To my beta testers for digging through the rough version of this program and giving me honest, vicious and wonderful feedback. TYWIB wouldnʼt be half of what it is without you.

Special thanks to the many women who went through this program for me and confirmed again and again that I was on the right track. The number of times I heard women say “You are TOTALLY right! Can you get my husband to do this?” was downright shocking.

To my “unofficial” beta testers . . . the women I dated back in my single days who I “tested” out a lot of the ideas in this program on.

To my girlfriend, whoʼs been the gleeful recipient of some of the dirtiest, raunchiest and most fun texts known to man.

To my customers for continually inspiring me and letting me know how much this material has affected their lives.